is it only me or what

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Hi everyone,
hope everyone is just doing great...i felt like writting about a topic i read the other day in my friends' notes about Women in yemen... basically what i found in her notes really annoied me to the point i i started to argue with her ...and we really had a tough conversation about it ...what was writen in the notes didn't represent the real picture of the yemeni woman it just stated how bad she is trated ,like from what i can remember there was this statment about when the girl gets married she has to dropp school or university and then she becomes the hasbund's property and no one has a word on her beside him even her family has no word on her and she has to do all the houshold work ... also that she has to give birth to many children and to rise them all with out the help of her husband...and it related that to the rules in islams .. well also from what i can remember it stated in her notes that a yemeni woman has to get along with the truth that her husband might marry one or two or may be three times over her... and also it just stated other wrong things about how a woman is treated...and especially how is she badly treated by her husband and eventhough she has to get along with it because she is considered to be his own property ...and also how she has to cover her body and thinking this is something she has to get rid off because it is not giving her the freedom which she should be giving... i do not know why the people in the Western societies has all these wrong ideas about us ... and thinks that the woman in our culture is weak and has no power ... and also thinks that she is not giving all her rights
what do you think do you have any other opinion than what i said ... share with us your thoughts about what i wrote...thanks ...

[mareb]

بلقيس ...
المراءة في الاسلام كرمت مالم تكرم به في غيره من الديانات ولم يأتي ديانة بمثل ماتى به الاسلام ....
اما في اليمن نعم هناك بعض الجزئيات والعادات التقاليد الموجودة منذ زمن غابر قد تكون لها ايجابيات وقد تكون لها سلبيات ولكن الحاصل من زواج في سن مبكرة اعتقد وهذا رائيي انه احسن ....
ولكن نجد كثير من الاقلام الغربية وقد تكون الغربية من تحب ان تسئ الى نساء اليمن بشكل مباشر ....

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thanks mareb for passying by ..
yet it is true as you stated that the women in islam is treated diferently than in other religions...she is treated with respect ..and i was alittle bit shocked when stated that you think getting married in an early age is a good idea ...well when i talk about getting married in early age i mean in 14 or 15 or even 16 years old ... so why do you think it is a good idea while as it is well known from a medical view of point that it is not the ever best choice becuase the body of the girl is not ready yet ... so could you please state some of the reasons that made think in that way ...and thanks

[جرادان]

Salaam all, and I wish you all the best in your life, thank you sis for rising up such important topic. Unfortunately your friend is trying to get attention by exposing her hardship life and generalize it as an example of what is going on in our society. Assuming what she is saying is true I feel sorry for her because she is stuck with a person who doesn’t know his religion well and treating her in a way that is against what Allah and his messenger (PBUH) commanded us to treat our women. However she is responsible in front of Allah for creating such image about her people and your duty as a friend of her is to remind her that she will be held accountable for everything that she says. It seems she also fooling her self by the beautiful word “freedom” while women in the western societies are realizing how they trapped by this word. When I discuss family issue with classmates our co-workers who been had left with tow or three kids with no father to share the reasonability of raising them up, I feel sad for them as person who knows how hard to struggle to have good life and better future for kids. Women here are tired of being as commercial or entertainment girls but it is hard for them to change that after the men are used to get what they want in easy way. This is just sample of the problems women facing in western societies without mentioning the drinking and its related issues, and wondering is this the freedom she is talking about? That doesn’t mean our societies are perfect at all. We have a heavy heritage of ignorance that we all need to work together to correct not only in women issues but the whole situation needs to be corrected. I thank you for your concern about the image of our deen and I am really proud of many sisters who always try to voice out the beauty of our religion. May Allah reward you for your good deeds and keep up the good work.

Sincerely
جرادان

[الحزين]

مشرفة قسم الغه الانجليزيه

بلقيس اين انتي غائبه

انشاء الله كل خير

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i want to thank you for your words and also for your comments that included جرادان first of all
really strong view of points...
well about my freind and what she had got ... i really tried to make her understand that what was written in the notes is not the way in which all the yemeni woman are treated ... the problem is that she is yemeni but she has never been to yemen in her live before so she doesn't know anything about yemen .... and when i talk to her about yemen she always refuse to listen becuase she doen't want to accept that she is really from there and i haven't got any clue why she is doing such a thing....and she is not the first one who i know like that and there are many people like her.... and i really feel sorry for her and for who ever thinks in her way....
well about how is a woman treated here in a western society like Uk ... i feel they are really traped and they have no freedom and searching for this freedom all over the places and any where but they will hardly find it ..and they try to find it by showing that they can do what a man does ...also they they are trying to let the men feell that they are indepantent without them and they don't need there help.. this acutally from what i see everyday here.. they always question me why are you wearing the hejab and when i explain to them the reason why i feel they want to say something but the don't know what it is ...i feel they want to know why are we always treated like that imean treated in such a respectiful way ...also they question me about why that we have everything ready there for us and we don't have to do it ...like the man will always do everything and i explain to them that in islam the man has to take care of the woman ....yet there are these mareeb.netmareeb.netmareeb.net sites that are trying to give the wrong view of points to the people in the western societies however theses mistaken view of points either if they were about our deen or our social life ... and i don't say that there aren't any groups that are trying to correct these mistaken view of points ...there are and the are many here in the UK but they are not supported in any sort of way and they are under alot of pressure ....
and so from what i see here i think our life is much much much better than the life here but we have to do something about the wrong ideas that the people in western societies have toward us... and as it is well known one hand does'n't do anything ...